A Closer Look at Why We Struggle to Succeed
Only 8% of people follow through on their New Year's resolutions. That number says a lot. It reflects a deeper pattern that affects so many of us, far beyond the resolutions we make each January.
Consider Maria. She's a capable, hard-working professional who dreams of launching her own business. Every year she starts strong - full of ideas and optimism. But within weeks, the doubt sets in. Her confidence slips. Her dream fades into the background again.
This start-stop cycle can be exhausting. And over time, it chips away at your belief in yourself.
But there's a way to step out of that loop. And it starts by working with something far more powerful than motivation alone.
How I Discovered the Missing Link
Before I became a coach, I was caught in a loop I couldn't seem to break. I set meaningful goals, took the first few steps - then found myself hesitating, second-guessing, or quietly giving up.
It wasn't for lack of desire or effort. Something deeper was interfering, and I couldn't quite reach it.
Everything changed when I discovered Angelic Guidance and Inner Influencing - two powerful tools that came into my life at the same time and reshaped everything.
Together, they helped me shift what was happening under the surface. Instead of pushing through resistance, I was able to clear it.
Instead of feeling unsupported, I began to receive real insight - both from within and beyond.
That experience led me to share this work with others. Now, I help clients move past the blocks that keep them stuck, and create lives that feel aligned, possible, and deeply fulfilling.
Rethinking Success and Failure
Success and failure are part of every person's story. But for many, the experience of setting goals, hitting obstacles, and losing momentum becomes a repeating cycle that leaves them feeling stuck.
This cycle takes a toll. Not just on dreams, but on confidence, energy, and the belief that real change is possible.
A study from the University of Scranton found that people who struggle to meet their goals often report much lower satisfaction with their lives.
And on a broader level, fear of failure stops a huge number of people from trying at all - including 33% who never start a business idea because they assume it won't work.
These patterns don't mean something is wrong with you. They point to something deeper that needs attention - the internal beliefs, emotions, and old habits that shape your approach to progress.
When we can work at that level, real change becomes much more possible.
What Gets in the Way
Everyone who's ever set a goal has also run into roadblocks - and most of them start inside the mind. Let's look at a few of the most common ones.
Self-doubt and imposter feelings:
Even high achievers can quietly wonder if they really belong. Thoughts like "I'm not good enough" or "Soon they'll figure out I don't know what I'm doing" are surprisingly common - and incredibly limiting.
Fear of failing:
This stops more dreams than actual failure ever could. People hold back not because they've failed, but because they fear what might happen if they do. So the idea stays an idea, and nothing ever gets built.
The voice in your head:
That inner critic is persistent. "I'm not smart enough." "I'll never get it right." These patterns often start in childhood or past experiences - and they quietly shape what you allow yourself to pursue.
Struggling to stay motivated:
Getting started can feel exciting. But staying with it through slow progress, setbacks, or life's curveballs is harder.
Most people fall off track not because they lack discipline, but because something deeper starts pulling them back.
Take Lori Anne, for example. A gifted artist who dreams of opening her own gallery. She starts projects, then abandons them midway, convinced they're not good enough.
Over time, she loses energy, loses direction - and starts to question the dream entirely.
These inner patterns are powerful. But they're not permanent.
What People Try - and Why It Often Isn't Enough
When you're stuck in a cycle of frustration or stalled progress, it's natural to start looking for answers. Many people turn to common tools - some traditional, some more modern.
Some of them help. But most don't go deep enough to create lasting change.
Traditional Approaches:
- Positive thinking: A mindset shift can help in the short term. But when deep doubts are rooted in your subconscious, repeating affirmations often feels hollow - or even increases frustration when things don't change.
- Goal-setting frameworks: SMART goals and similar systems give structure, but they don't address the internal beliefs or emotional blocks that quietly steer your actions (or inaction).
Natural Solutions:
- Mindfulness and meditation: These practices improve awareness and reduce stress. But when it comes to shifting old mental patterns, they can take a long time - and for many people, they don't stick.
- Journaling: A great tool for self-reflection, but rarely enough on its own to create deep change. Insight doesn't always equal transformation.
Energy-Based Therapies:
- Reiki and energy healing: Often used to promote balance and well-being, but not everyone resonates with these methods - and the changes are usually subtle or slow.
- EFT (tapping): A method that can bring quick emotional relief. But for complex patterns around success and failure, results can be inconsistent without targeted guidance.
The truth is that most approaches focus on symptoms - stress, fear, self-doubt - without touching the subconscious programming that creates them in the first place.
That's where Inner Influencing comes in. This method doesn't ask you to push harder, stay more positive, or keep repeating habits.
Instead, it helps you shift the underlying patterns at the subconscious level - the ones that quietly decide whether you move forward or fall back.
And unlike many techniques, it's fast, self-applied, and deeply effective.
A New Way to Shift the Patterns That Hold You Back
Inner Influencing offers a powerful internal shift - one that rewires the way you respond to challenges, choices, and goals.
It's based on a unique discovery: a "fourth part" of the mind that creates a direct link to your subconscious patterns, making real change possible without hypnosis, repetition, or altered states.
Where traditional psychology identifies the conscious, subconscious, and unconscious mind, this discovery adds something new: a deeper access point that allows for precision change at the level where your habits, reactions, and beliefs are stored.
This means old patterns don't need to be wrestled with or repeated endlessly. You can step out of a stuck loop because the reasons for it begin to dissolve from the inside.
Here's how Inner Influencing supports transformation:
- Targets the real issue beneath the surface, whether it's fear, self-sabotage, or a belief that success isn't possible.
- Rewrites outdated responses so you're not reacting from old conditioning.
- Builds new internal patterns that help you move forward with clarity, ease, and calm.
Once you learn the method, it's yours for life. You can use it privately and efficiently, in real time, whenever something starts to pull you off track.
This is a shift in how change happens.
No forcing, no pretending, no endless struggle.
The Angels Say
I want to tell you about what the Angels have to say about success and failure.
The Angels say that our definitions of success and failure are a little skewed and that we rely on definitions outside of ourselves to make these evaluations.
The Angels say we should listen to ourselves, to our inner voice and wisdom, and pay attention to what feels right to us. This is important in all aspects of our lives, but especially the big decisions - what career path to follow, what relationships to pursue.
They say that often our beliefs about success, failure and status colour our approach to life and to these decisions. They say we tend to automatically go in certain directions according to the programming we have received from our parents, friends, peers and society at large.
We have so much instruction from these people and groups that we can't hear ourselves think.
We place so much value on the opinions of these same authorities that it is very difficult to go in our own true direction.
It is important to sit quietly by yourself and think deeply about what success means to you. Each person's goals and desires are unique. You need not measure yourself against society's expectations. If you always follow what you think you are expected to do, then you will live a hollow life and you will not be happy.
You are encouraged to plumb your depths. You are invited to be excited about the possibilities for your life. Don't be limited by definitions of success and failure that have been imparted to you. After all, you have a lifetime to explore and grow into your full potential. And being able to do this and to do it with your whole heart, is certainly a success and very fulfilling too.
The Angels wish you well on your journey.
The Angels' message encourages us to redefine success and failure on our own terms, listening to our inner wisdom rather than external expectations.
As you contemplate their invitation to explore your true desires and potential, you may find yourself seeking additional guidance and tools to support this journey of self-discovery and personal growth.
Inner Influencing is one such tool that you can incorporate to make your life more successful.
Imagine What Happens When You Stop Fighting Yourself
"The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson
This is the kind of change that happens when you stop spinning your wheels.
When you're not stuck in loops of self-doubt, fear, and inner conflict, something different takes over: quiet strength, clarity, and the ability to move forward with calm conviction.
With consistent use of Inner Influencing, your day-to-day experience begins to shift in real and noticeable ways. You might find yourself:
- Following through on what you start - because the blocks that used to stall your progress are no longer running the show.
- Letting go of overthinking - and stepping into action without second-guessing.
- Communicating more clearly and drawing better boundaries.
- Feeling steady, even when things get messy or uncertain.
- Setting your own goals - not because someone else says you should, but because they matter deeply to you.
This is not a version of success based on hustle or external validation. Instead, it's rooted in something more stable: the part of you that knows who you are and what you're here to do.
And the more you connect with that part of yourself, the less likely you are to fall back into old patterns.
They just no longer make any sense to follow.
Your Next Step Toward Real, Lasting Success
You've made it this far - and that says something important. You're ready for change that actually sticks.
Not hype, not quick fixes. Something deeper. Something that works.
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About the Author
Anita Colussi-Zanon is an Angel Intuitive and Master Practitioner in Inner Influencing with over 10 years of experience helping people transform their lives. She combines divine angelic wisdom with powerful subconscious clearing techniques to create lasting positive change.
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