How to Build True Confidence Step-by-Step - Without Faking It or Forcing It

Why Confidence Feels Hard (Even When You're Trying)

You know you have something meaningful to offer.

You've done the work, read the books, tried to show up more - but still, there's that hesitation. That edge of doubt. That sense of holding back.

Some days, confidence feels within reach.

Other days, it slips through your fingers.

It's frustrating - especially when you're self-aware and spiritually open. You know you're capable. You want to shine. So why does it still feel shaky?

You might notice yourself:

• Pulling back when it's your turn to speak
• Downplaying your ideas or successes
• Feeling uncomfortable being seen or celebrated
• Questioning whether you're "too much" or "not enough"

There's a disconnect - between what you know you want and what your energy feels safe allowing.

And that's often the part we miss: confidence isn't just about thoughts. It's about what your subconscious believes is safe.

If there's an old belief running in the background - something like "It's dangerous to stand out," or "If I'm confident, I'll be rejected" - it creates an internal push-pull. One part of you wants to move forward, while another quietly holds back.

That inner tug-of-war is exhausting. And it's not your fault.

It's simply a sign that something deeper is ready to shift.

You can feel solid in who you are.

You can speak clearly, show up fully, and trust your presence.

Let me share how I help women do exactly that - and why this work means so much to me.

Who I Am + Why I Care

I'm Anita, and for years I've been helping women rebuild their inner foundation - the place where true confidence lives.

Not by layering on more tools or surface-level strategies, but by gently clearing the deeper beliefs and protective patterns that make confidence feel unsafe in the first place.

Through a powerful subconscious method called Inner Influencing, I guide clients in identifying and releasing the exact blocks that have been running beneath the surface. These aren't always easy to spot - many of them were formed years ago, and they've been quietly shaping how we show up, speak up, and see ourselves.

Alongside this work, I bring in intuitive and Angelic guidance - because healing is not just about techniques. It's also about being held in a space of compassion and clarity, where your deeper truth can rise to the surface.

I care so much about this topic because I know how many incredible women walk through life feeling like they need to shrink, apologize, or prove their worth - even when they're doing everything "right."

And I've seen what happens when those old beliefs are finally cleared.

The voice gets stronger.

The energy steadies.

The confidence returns - not as a performance, but as a quiet knowing.

That's what I want for you, too.

Let's look more closely at where low confidence really begins...and why it sticks around longer than it should.

What Undermines Confidence (And How It Starts)

Confidence doesn't disappear overnight - it erodes over time.

Sometimes it begins in childhood, when being quiet or agreeable felt safer than being bold or expressive.

Sometimes it's shaped by experiences of rejection, criticism, or being misunderstood.

And sometimes, it's simply absorbed - from parents, teachers, relationships, or the culture around us.

Over time, these moments sink in.

Not just as memories - but as instructions written into the subconscious:

• Stay small, it's safer that way.
• If I speak up, I'll be judged.
• Don't draw attention - it never ends well.
• Confidence comes off as arrogant - and that's not who I am.

Even when your conscious mind wants to believe in yourself, those deeper messages can keep pulling you back.

You might see it show up as:

• Second-guessing your decisions, even after you've made them
• Avoiding visibility, even when you know it would move things forward
• Deflecting praise or success because it feels uncomfortable
• Holding yourself to impossible standards, afraid that anything less will be "not enough"

And the emotional toll adds up.

You start to question your voice.

You feel stuck between who you know you are...and who you've been trained to be.

And it's not that you lack confidence - it's that your system still doesn't feel safe fully expressing it.

That's why building confidence isn't about becoming someone else.

It's about removing what's been in the way of being yourself.

Now let's talk about why most advice on building confidence doesn't really stick - and what actually works.

Why Most Confidence-Building Advice Doesn't Stick

You've likely come across all the classic suggestions.

"Fake it till you make it."

"Just be more assertive."

"Say your affirmations every morning and power-pose in the mirror."

And maybe you gave it a fair try.

Maybe it helped...for a moment.

But deep down, the confidence didn't feel real - and it certainly didn't last.

That's because most of these approaches are aimed at changing how you act, not what you feel safe expressing.

If there's still a part of you holding fear around being visible, being judged, or being too much - it won't matter how many positive phrases you recite. That fear will quietly pull you back, right when you're ready to step forward.

For many women, especially those who are sensitive, intuitive, or spiritually aware, confidence isn't a matter of ego. It's about alignment. Safety. Permission.

And when those inner permissions haven't been granted - when confidence still feels linked to risk or rejection - the body and energy simply won't follow the mind.

That's why certain blocks feel immune to effort.

And why showing up confidently feels like a performance, instead of a reflection of who you truly are.

This isn't about trying harder. It's about approaching confidence from the place it was disrupted - the subconscious.

That's where things begin to shift, and stay shifted.

Let's look at what that path can look like - and how it becomes your new baseline.

The Natural Path to True Confidence

Confidence doesn't need to be forced. It returns when what's been holding it back is finally cleared.

That's what makes Inner Influencing so effective. Instead of trying to push past self-doubt or fake your way through it, this method works directly with the part of your subconscious that's been carrying the fear - often for years.

You're not trying to override the fear. You're addressing it where it lives.

The process helps you identify the exact belief that's been quietly shaping your choices. Beliefs like:

• "If I speak up, it won't go well."
• "Confidence will make me unlikable."
• "If I'm seen, I'll be judged."

Once those beliefs are cleared, your energy shifts. There's no internal tug-of-war. You're not trying to convince yourself you're confident - you simply feel more steady, more sure, more you.

You don't need to be louder or more outgoing-or become someone you're not.

Real confidence comes from beneath the fear and hesitation. It's been there all along-just waiting to be uncovered.

Adding Angelic guidance to this process brings another level of support. It creates space for calm and clarity. You're not walking this path alone.

As you reconnect with your voice and presence, you're being gently supported by something greater-something that's been with you all along.

There's no need to rush. Confidence builds quietly at first. But when it's real, it lasts.

Let me share what that looked like for someone who experienced it.

Real Stories of Confidence Rising

Sometimes the biggest changes don't come with fireworks. They show up in quiet ways - in how you speak, how you decide, how you finally move toward something that once felt just out of reach.

That's what happened for Lila.

When we started working together, she was carrying blocks that made it hard to fully trust her desires - or believe that what she wanted was truly possible. We focused on clearing the deeper resistance, gently shifting the subconscious patterns that were keeping her stuck.

This is what happens when confidence stops being something you chase...and starts becoming something you live from. Quietly. Naturally. Fully.

What the Angels Say about Confidence

I want to take a minute to tell you about what the Angels want you to know about building your Confidence.

Take the First Step: The Free Angelic Transformation Kit

If you're ready to take your own step forward - in whatever area you've been holding back - there's a way to begin today.

You don't need to prove yourself.

You don't need to wait until you feel "ready."

And you don't need to keep trying to build confidence from the outside in.

Confidence grows when your energy and subconscious are aligned with who you truly are - not with the fear or self-doubt that's been running in the background.

When the resistance clears, confidence stops being something you chase.

It becomes something you recognize - something you remember.

That's exactly why I created the Free Angelic Transformation Kit - to help you start reconnecting with your strength, your clarity, and your confidence.

Inside, you'll receive:

• A 23-minute Connect with the Angels guided meditation - to bring in peace, clarity, and a deeper sense of support
• A powerful discovery about how the subconscious truly works - and why it's been blocking confidence even when your heart is ready
• Three Inner Influencing exercises to begin releasing self-doubt and opening up to steady, grounded self-trust

This kit is a doorway - not to becoming someone else, but to coming home to who you've been all along.

Let this be the step where confidence begins to rise - not from pressure, but from clarity.

Not from perfection, but from peace.

You're closer than you think.